Finding Freedom From Fixtures

After recently taking a workshop with Marylee Fairbanks (http://maryleefairbanks.com/) I have decided to begin my own "24 Things" challenge (http://maryleefairbanks.com/24-things/). The rules are simple: each day for 24 days you let go of something that has been cluttering up your house, something that no longer serves you, objects that will be better suited at a yard sale, donation box, or in a trash barrel. During the 24 day release, one should only purchase necessities-- food, medical care, etc. All other material desires should be added to an ongoing list. If you are able to remember the items on your list at the end of the 24 days, then you are free to purchase them, otherwise they are likely to have been unimportant. According to Marylee, "The clutter in our house reflects the clutter in our hearts." Are we clinging to mementos of past relationships? Unwanted gifts that we were too polite to turn away? Clothes that haven't fit for years? Objects that no longer reflect who we are currently in this ever-changing body and mind of ours? Are the things we surround ourselves with keeping us rooted in the past, preventing us from blossoming into the future? In order to invite abundance into our lives, we must eliminate the unnecessary clutter that surrounds us.

Although Marylee recommends four cycles, corresponding to the four seasons, of 24 Things each year, the timing of her most recent workshop and the significance of this period in my own life could not have been better. I will be beginning my solitary 24 Things today, April 29th exactly one year after my (ex) husband told me he was moving out. In exactly 24 days I will turn 28 years old. I cannot think of a better way to mark the end of a year of transformation and to usher in another year of abundance, love, and gratitude for this life that constantly challenges and inspires me.

"One good thing to remember when clearing out is this: If you have an object that makes the past feel more important than the future then you should let it go. The past is gone. Your present is all that need be nourished." ~Marylee Fairbanks

Sunday, June 2, 2013

Day 33: Remote Control Car

It's funny how many of my mother-in-law's misguided gifts are still sitting around my home. Getting rid of gifts is always especially hard because of the guilt attached to removing something that was meant especially for you. The whole custom of gift-giving in America dictates that you must feign happiness or excitement even when the gift is not something you would have wanted. Holidays are always a source of stress for me, and I'm sure for others too. I think about what to buy for others weeks before the holiday.  Getting older makes gift giving all the more complicated. I could easily buy what I want, but really, there is nothing I need. If you haven't figured it out yet, I'm in the business of letting go, not acquiring.

The remote control car pictured above was given to my husband for Christmas one year. My mother-in-law gave matching cars to him and his brother so they could race them around the house. A great idea for children under ten, but for adults in their twenties and thirties the idea was laughable. They both just gave each other looks at the suggestion and placed the cars beside the piles of clothes and house-hold items they'd already unwrapped. Unfazed, my mother-in-law touted how they were indestructible and could crash into anything.  She nearly begged them to open the boxes and begin the races.

The car traveled home with us, never opened, and found a place on top of one of the cabinets that came with our apartment. It remained there until the yard sale I had a few weeks ago. An overprotective grandmother dragging two young children, a boy and a girl, inspected it for much too long before saying she'd buy it. "I need to talk to their mother first," she said and disappeared again.  She returned a short while later.  She asked the little boy if he'd use it. He didn't speak, but just looked as wide-eyed and scared as his sister who was clutching the bunched up fabric of her dress, looking close to tears. "It doesn't say what age on it," she said. I decided not to point out the giant 3+ on the front in case the boy was 2 1/2. "I'm sure he won't hurt himself with it," I reasoned. "It's indestructible," I said, intoning my mother-in-law, laughing silently to myself at a joke she didn't understand. She gave me three dollars for it, even though I'd asked for five, but I was so grateful to let it go I would have given it away for free. "Let grandma hold it," she said tucking it under her arm so she could take the tiny hand of each child in her own. "Let's go get you your carriage," she said to the girl, leading the way up the small hill beside my driveway.

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